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“OMG, you listen to WHAT?!”

July 20, 2012 By Trent Evans

Call Me Maybe – One of the catchiest songs in the past ten years…

This song follows Pop Music Hooks 101 – Rule #3: “When in doubt, add strings.” Now I am not exactly the target demographic for this song, but damn if it won’t get out of my head! I’m sure half the world is going to hate this thing in a couple of weeks, but right now? Yeah, it is stuck in Trent’s head.

Poor wittle innocent pop song:(

Some of you are probably asking yourselves: “Why the f*ck did Trent post about some teen pop song?” I love music, and always have. It affects me like little else, save reading and writing. It speaks to something primal in all of us, regardless of what particular type of music we listen to.

But mainly I wanted to write about something not quite so heavy. Don’t worry though – heavy and dark will be back very soon 🙂

One of the first things I like to ask when I’m getting to know someone is what kind of music they like. Perhaps I am guilty of being a tad overanalytical, but I’ve always felt it gave me a tiny glimpse at what kind of person they might be. Now, that said, I make sure not to make generalizations or assumptions about people based on what they listen to. Taste is subjective. One man’s masterpiece is another man’s emetic.

What got me thinking about music was when I was going through my phone, updating the songs on it. Yes, I stream – a LOT (Pandora, I heart thee) – but I also buy quite a bit of music. All digital downloads of course; I am struggling to recall the last time I actually purchased a CD. And while I was updating my playlist, I was struck anew at the bat poop crazy range of music that is on my phone.

You’ll never hear me criticize the music others choose to listen to, mainly because for me to do so would be akin to the pot calling the kettle black. Perhaps there are others out there like me – maybe this is the new normal in an increasingly specialized and subdivided entertainment culture – but my musical tastes are…schizophrenic. You’ll find anything from metal to country, Debussy to Deftones. There’s New Age (yes, really), pop, gangsta rap, trance, trip hop, ambient, etc. There’s even a super trippy, long form yoga composition(!), complete with spoken word segments mentioning the stars – and I don’t even do yoga. The point is, I’m all over the place.

Now, my personal favorite band is TOOL. I can’t pick out a favorite song of theirs – there are just too many. I can narrow it down to a few though:

– Reflection – These guys managed to create a song that’s dark, serpentine, even thoughtful – and sneak in cool references to the story of Narcissus from Greek mythology. The fact that this song does all of this without being pretentious is simply amazing.

– Lateralus – The title track from their nearly flawless album released in 2001. This is one of my favorites due mainly to an incredible arrangement, complicated time signature and a stunning, soul-stirring finale. This song is eleven years old and it still gives me chills.

– 10,000 days – Wings for Marie (Part 2) – Written by lead singer Maynard James Keenan as a sort of elegy (no, I did NOT confuse this with ‘eulogy’) for his disabled mother following her death. It’s so powerful, so heartbreaking, and, ultimately, supremely uplifting. This is a moving, incredible gem of a song that will make you want to give your mom a huge hug.

There is a lot of other music I love, but I am boring you all at this point. I would really love to know what music you guys like to listen to, what moves you. Please feel free to comment, or send me an e-mail if that’s more comfortable for you. Until next time:)

Trent

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Filed Under: Trent's Thoughts Tagged With: ambient, Call Me Maybe, Carly Rae Jepsen, dark music, Debussy, Deftones, elegy vs eulogy, Lateralus, Maynard James Keenan, Pandora, sitar, songs we love, the myth of Narcissus, TOOL, trance, trip hop, yoga music

30 Days of Kink – Day 10

July 17, 2012 By Trent Evans

Day 10: What are your hard limits?

When I first read this title, I thought to myself  “This is going to be a reaallly short blog post.” So, I had to think about it – for days. After those solemn hours of contemplation I came to a realization…

It’s still going to be a short list:)

I looked through the rest of the questions for 30 Days of Kink, and I don’t see anything for soft limits – so I’ll include some of those too. The list below is what I would or would not be prepared to give, not receive. Just in case there is any confusion:)

I’ll start with differentiating between hard limits and soft limits (for me):

Soft Limit= something I wouldn’t normally do, but might do under certain, very specific conditions.

Hard Limit = something I would not do under any circumstances.

HUGE DISCLAIMER – just because these are my limits, doesn’t mean I am  rendering judgement on others’ kinks (except, obviously, for the kids and animals; those are universal no-nos.)

Here is my list:

  • “Golden showers”/pee – in fiction this can be hot – if written well. Aran Ashe and William Avon do it particularly well. Just not sure it’s something I could do IRL…maybe someday.
  • Blood Play – There is one aspect of blood play that’s a possible one for me: whipping or caning to the blood. If I did it, it would only ever be to the buttocks; nowhere else is it safe IMO (though there are others who say upper back is fine too; I disagree with them). Again, in fiction this can be hot if done right, and in limited doses. IRL? I just don’t have enough practice with whips and canes for it to be safe. Another one that’s a “maybe someday”.
Hard Limits
  • No children or anyone under 18 – no exceptions. This should go without saying.
  • No scat
  • No animals
  • No extreme breathplay (e.g. until unconsciousness). A hand around her throat to assert ownership of my slave? Hell yes. A collar that’s a little snug so that she feels a constant physical reminder of her being owned, controlled? Yes indeed. Leashes? Fuck yes. But despite my weird penchant for enjoying wrestling with and physically taking down a woman, I don’t want to choke her out.
  • Blood play (specifically, cutting) – It’s not something I would ever feel safe doing. Sure, there are some very experienced players who love this, and can do it safely. I’m just not one of them. Oddly enough fantasy author Jacqueline Carey handles cutting VERY well, and she actually makes it scorching hot. If you haven’t read her Kushiel series, you’re missing out.
  • Branding – In fiction it can be so fucking hot, in a very disturbing way. See The Story of O, or the art of Loic Dubigeon I linked to in my Day 8 post for examples of what I mean. However, IRL it’s a bridge too far for me. Unlike tattoos which are (painfully) reversible, branding is – short of skin grafting – not. Best left to fantasy, at least for me.
  • Dishonesty – Don’t roll your eyes. I’m serious. What I mean is a sub not communicating her needs  – which includes HER limits. Don’t try something just because you think he’ll like it, or he tells you to. This is not only for your safety. It’s for mine, too. No Dom/Master/Sadist worth a squirt of piss wants to unintentionally bring something up from a sub’s past or trigger a panic attack – or worse. Communicate, communicate, communicate. If your Dom doesn’t want to communicate, then you’re in danger. Tell him to fuck off, safeword, call a monitor, whatever you need to do. Just don’t go any further. <end rant>
There, see? Not a long list at all. I’m sure I’ve forgotten some things, but I think this covers the lion’s share of my limits.
Until Day 11!
Trent


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Filed Under: Trent's Thoughts Tagged With: "scening", BDSM clubs, BDSM safety, blood play, branding, breathplay, Caning, collaring, control, D/s safety, dishonesty, golden showers, hard limits, Kushiel's Dart, leashes, Master/slave, protect your Dom, protect yourself, Story of O, Whipping

50 Shades of…

July 14, 2012 By Trent Evans

I’ll just leave this right here 🙂

 

ETA (thanks Flogging Mommy!): Here’s the full video. I’m crying laughing right now…

http://www.nbc.com/saturday-night-live/video/amazon-mothers-day-ad/1400037

 

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30 Days of Kink – Day 9

July 7, 2012 By Trent Evans

Day 9: Post a kink related song or music video you enjoy.

 

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=h0Pf-TBJFis

I first heard this song in of all places a strip club. I think I was 19 or 20, and holy shit did this one get my attention! I already liked NIN at the time, but I had never heard this particular song. It’s probably on my top 10 faves of all time for me, and for the imagery (and most importantly, the visceral emotion) it evokes I had to list this one for the kink-related song.

Is it explicitly “kinky”? No. But listen to it, and you’ll hear why I posted this one.

You’ll feel it:)

Until Day 10!

Trent

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30 Days of Kink – Day 8

July 4, 2012 By Trent Evans

Day 8: Post a kinky image you find erotic.

So let me start off by saying…I’m a nerd. I actually like BDSM art more than I like the photography. That’s not to say I don’t appreciate photos (I love them), but I have always been drawn :::groan::: to BDSM art. So, rather than get myself into trouble by posting an image that’s still under copyright, I will just post some links here to stuff that I like. Maybe the readers of this blog will discover something they like too!

Paolo Eleuteri Serpieri Ahh Serpieri, the master. While he does comparatively little BDSM per se (only a few of his paintings and the occasional scene in his comics depict it), one look at his famous heroine will tell you why he is beloved by spankos and pervs like me the world over. Druuna Oh Druuna! We love her, and thank the sweet Lord, Serpieri shares her with us:) This man knows what the terms ‘voluptuous’, ‘hourglass figure’ and ‘well-endowed’ actually mean. His art speaks to men who like to spank. I can’t put it more clearly than that! I’ve linked to what IMO is his best work (Creatura), but there is a lot more of it out there – some of it even more hardcore. Pick it up while you can because it seems to go in and out of print.

Loic Dubigeon

Quite simply the most evocative, erotic BDSM art I’ve ever seen. Have you ever read The Story Of O? Well, his art is one vision of what that story might look like. His work is full of dominance and submission; pain and pleasure; Masters and slaves; and tearful surrender. Oh, and it’s got plenty of whipping, caning, cropping and fucking too! Dubigeon was incredible. His works are mostly out of print, but can still be found in the used markets. If you find them, snap them up, for they are destined to be classics. I’ve linked to one of the few still available on Amazon.

 

Michael Manning

Supremely talented, visionary artist. I’m not even sure he’s human:) He loves to push buttons, and there is enough in his works to offend just about anybody and everyone. I don’t even know how to describe it. All I can say is…it’s rad.

 

Rebecca

Known primarily for her Housewives at Play comix series. Her work is mainly F/F, but she also does quite a bit of M/F work too.  Rebecca is amazing. If you like lesbians, some diabolical F/F BDSM, and MILFS, you can do no better than Rebecca. She does mostly black and white, but her Hot Moms stuff (shown above) is in full color – and it’s smoking hot. Very talented, very profific, very perverted. What’s not to love? Her graphic albums and comix published through Eros Comix are of high quality (I own several of them). Her website is one of the best deals on the internet for depraved art. I highly recommend it.

 

Hanz Kovacq (aka Bernard Duffossé) – http://www.amazon.co.uk/Beautes-Dociles-Kovacq/dp/2917456078/ref=sr_1_4?ie=UTF8&qid=1341435989&sr=8-4) Now, before some of you freak, let me be very clear here. I am not advocating everything in this man’s work (some of the themes he occasionally explores happen to be ince$t and some “monster sex”, neither of which are my thing). What I AM saying is that he is a mad genius of an artist;  a man with a compelling, one-of-a kind style,  impressive technical skills and most of all, a very, very dirty mind. I love him. Lots of whips, chains, ropes, gags, blindfolds and some breathtakingly amoral characters. Oh and his work is chock full of hardcore sex. Sadly, it appears all of his stuff is out of print, but if you stumble across any of it on Ebay, BUY it. You won’t regret it – even if you don’t speak French.

Dave Annis

I’ve never encountered an artist that was so fucking funny. You’ll be turned on and laughing out loud as you peruse his art. Some of his ongoing themes are pure genius! He’s an artist who understands the difference between titillation and eroticism – and knows how to use both. On top of that, the guy is a good writer with a twisted and wicked sense of humor. There is NOBODY else out there like him. His website is very easy to navigate, and is an outstanding value for the money.

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I’m sure I am leaving out some great artists, and if so, I will post them as they come to me. I hope this has been at least interesting and informative. What do you think? Who are your favorite BDSM artists? If you have other artists you like, please feel free to let me know in the comments or send me an e-mail. Always looking to peep new stuff!

Until Day 9!

Trent

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30 Days of Kink: Day 7

June 11, 2012 By Trent Evans

Day 7: What’s your favorite toy?

Must I pick one? To be perfectly honest, I prefer spanking with the hand (yes, I know ‘toy’ goes far beyond just spanking implements). That said, the cane is my favorite, with the crop as an honorable mention.

The cane is so innocuous at first glance; merely a thin stick, really. How could that little thing possibly be so fearsome? Many people have never felt the cane applied to them. They’re lucky in one sense; it hurts like hell.

In another sense though, if they are interested in spanking and/or BDSM, they are missing out. If you like spanking and have never encountered the cane, then you are bereft of experience with the “heavy artillery”. It takes a lot of practice to be proficient at its use; if you have an adventurous, trusting girl to help you practice, then you are a very lucky man indeed!

If your challenging little sub is starting to yawn as you tire out your spanking hand on her round little ass, then it’s time to up the ante. That mouth, where before it was yawning, will soon be frozen in a shocked expression of woe, as she first feels that two stage burn-ache of a good cane stroke. After a dozen (or two) cuts with that evil length of rattan,  she won’t take her eyes from the floor the next morning:)

In many ways the crop is the equal of the cane. Wielded properly it is capable of inflicting searing, agonizing pain. Indeed, the implement was developed for the much tougher hide of horses. No matter how jaded, how tough your beloved  slave thinks she is, she will lose a battle with the crop; her stoicism will invariably give way to tears, pleading, and surrender. Nothing else save the cane has quite the impact of the crop in this regard.

There is one other aspect of the crop that sets it apart from other implements: psychological impact. This is an implement wielded by someone in control of another (whether it’s a thoroughbred or a slave, it matters not), subject to the whims, the commands of the one in control. Can a girl, standing trembling before her master as he flexes that lethal black implement in his hands fail to draw such parallels? Does it humiliate her, or elicit a dark, taboo excitement? Maybe it’s both?

The stern master, clutching the finely braided leather of the handle, awaits the lowly slavegirl as she divests her bottom of what meager garments her owner allows her. She prostrates herself, presenting the tender, vulnerable twin moons of her buttocks for punishment. Does he lecture her on her litany of sins as he paces behind her, the crop snapping against the tough leather of his boots? Does he make her feel the cold, black crop against her lips as she is instructed to kiss the implement of her correction?

The psychological impact of both of these implements of correction, is at least as important as the physical one. After all, isn’t the domination of the mind just as important (or maybe more important) as the domination of the body?

What do you think? Do you like these implements? Hate them? Why?

Until Day 8,

Trent

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